Today I did not wake up on the right side of the bed. And I didn’t wake up on the right side of the bed yesterday either. In fact, I’ve been in a royally unpleasant mood since Tuesday, if you really want to know the truth.
I’ve been snapping at my husband every time he dares to look at me the wrong way (even though he probably said something to provoke me 9 times out of 10, in my defense). I’ve been losing my patience far more quickly than usual with my babies. And I’ve had a mad case of road rage, so if you’re driving around in the greater metropolitan area, I’ll probably honk at you if you make one wrong move (sorry guys, I’m not usually like this, I promise).
I’ve been doing some soul searching to try to get to the root of all of this negativity and general pissiness I’ve been experiencing, and I think I’ve narrowed it down to a relatively obvious culprit.
First and foremost, I’ve been spending way too much time on social media. Ever since I started this little blog a couple of months ago, I’ve been spending more time than any sane human being should be spending improving my online presence.
You see, in order to become a blogger with any kind of respectable following, there is a ton of legwork and effort that goes on behind the scenes– you mean y’all didn’t know that? Well neither did I when I decided to turn this into a sort of full-time job.
This is the kind of stuff bloggers don’t tell you. You follow a blogger on Instagram, and all you see are a bunch of pretty pictures with witty captions. What you don’t see are the hundreds of photos that were taken in order to get that perfect shot. You also don’t see the fifty or so carefully-crafted captions that were drafted before the right one was chosen and posted along with the aforementioned aesthetically-pleasing picture.
In order to build and maintain a captive audience that will hopefully keep driving traffic to your blog, you have to engage with your readers. That means commenting, liking, commenting again, liking some more, and reading and making an honest effort to respond to any and all comments that are left on your posts. Did I mention you have to like pictures? It’s a lot of work. Yes, it’s fun most of the time; but it’s work nonetheless. It never stops.
People want consistency. No one wants to follow a blog for content that maybe gets posted once in a blue moon. What’s the fun in that?
Back to my original point. All of this work that I’ve been putting into maintaining my Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter accounts has had me glued to my phone every chance I get. If I’m in the bathroom? I’m probably liking pictures. If I’m a passenger in a car? I’m probably drafting future posts for my Instagram. If I’m at home while the kids are sleeping? I’m writing new blog posts.
All of this time I’m spending on my phone or on the computer has been taking away from time I could have been spending with my husband and kids.
Duh. No wonder I’m so freaking grumpy all the time.
So if I’m going to continue blogging– which I definitely am because it’s the perfect creative outlet for me– I need to make some changes. I need to get organized and manage my time better. There will never be more than 24 hours in a day, as much as I wish there could be. So it’s up to me to come up with a realistic schedule that allows me to follow through with all of my blogging commitments and all of my commitments to my family and friends.
This master schedule is going to take some time to develop and perfect, so please be patient with me. I’m determined to have my cake and eat it too, so wish me luck!